Kevin Hart – How To Be Funny (Part 2)
Kevin Hart – How To Be Funny (Part 2)
This is Part 2 of The Good Life Guys’ discussion about How To Be Funny.
Utilize The Element Of Surprise
We all enjoy being caught by surprise. Especially if the surprise causes us to chuckle, or even better, howl with laughter! The element of surprise can be a very effective weapon in your comedy arsenal. If you can catch people off-guard with a humorous non-sequitur. Or say or do something ‘out of left field’ that pricks up the ears, eyes, and minds of your audience. Chances are you will ignite giggling fits all-round.
Normal life can be rather dull. Humans are creatures of habit, and we all tend to act in predictable ways that have been conditioned into us by society. So when somebody bursts the ‘bubble of normalcy’ and surprises us, it is exciting. And if it is even a teeny-tiny bit funny, we will tend to instinctively, reflexively laugh.
Tell White Lies
When you are telling stories that are meant to be humorous, it is perfectly OK to exaggerate. Even to the point of white lying! The happiness created by a well-told, witty tale is a prize worth fibbing for. We are not recommending bald-faced lies. Telling stories that are full-blown nonsense and contain not a shred of truth will mark you out as a sad oddball. But exaggerating and embellishing your stories when necessary to amplify comedic impact is noble. It’s win-win!
Humour Makes Vaginas Wet
If you are a gentleman who is out and about trying to meet some nice ladies, being funny will aid you in your mission. Call-back humor is very effective for flirting. Because it’s personal. It creates a metaphorical bubble occupied by only you and the girl. It creates a narrative that only you and she are aware of. It is intimate.
When you approach a girl for the first time it is a great idea to be silly. Being fun and not taking yourself (or her) too seriously sets you apart massively. Especially because so many guys are serious, intense and trying too hard to seem ‘Alpha’ when they approach a girl. Not taking yourself too seriously is very attractive. And being silly makes it difficult to take yourself too seriously!
So be willing to look foolish. And be willing to fail. Being confident enough in your own skin to be free, silly and self-amused puts you far above the competition. “Who on Earth would have the balls to do that?! This guy is unique!”
Act to act. Not to get a specific result. You only control your thoughts and actions. So do your thing and let the chips fall where they may. Be free from outcome. Being free from outcome means that you are unstifled and able to be funny spontaneously.
Focus Outwards and GIVE
Giving feels better than receiving. And if you give good cheer into the world you will very likely receive it back. And that is energizing. You give…. you receive. You give…. you receive. And on and on. It’s an upward spiral! And you set the spiral in motion by going first and giving good cheer. Make people feel good. Spread the love. Forget yourself. Focus outwards!
Stop being miserable – it’s lazy and selfish. Nobody cares about your bullshit! Take responsibility for your mood. Slap yourself into a good mood by Acting As if….. you are happy. How you act – you become. The ‘B’ in CBT stands for Behavior. You tend to feel how you behave. So you can behave your way out of a bad mood, by acting in the face of your bad mood. Being silly and taking risks blows away the cobwebs of a bad mood. Act As if…..
Comedy doesn’t have to be hard. And it doesn’t have to be technically hilarious either. Just include people, and brighten their day! Not being super-sharp and witty is no excuse. You can be super-fun without being witty! Bare in mind how mundane ordinary life is. Most people are anxious, trapped, unhappy and serious. Brighten days, lift moods, be a hero. Spread love throughout the world by being an inclusive joker.
Study the Greats
Watching great stand-up comedians will put you in a good mood. And it will educate you on how to be funny. Learn about timing, delivery, and storytelling from the greats. Watch and replicate.
Very different comedians will teach you very different lessons. For example, watching Kevin Hart will teach you about character development and storytelling. While Stuart Lee will educate you on deadpan delivery and call-back humor.
Learning how to be funny is a fun and rewarding undertaking. Enjoy!