#165 Jordan Peterson ’12 Rules For Life’ Part 2
This episode of the Good Life Guys Show/Podcast is the second in a three-part series inspired by a talk that Stephen attended in-person, and Yasin watched on YouTube, by the great Canadian psychologist Jordan Peterson. The talk revolved around Peterson’s new book, 12 Rules For Life.
12 Rules For Life – ‘Go First’
Reaching out to people and ‘going first’ is perhaps the single best and most effective way to improve your overall lot in life – both emotionally and in terms of creating opportunities for success and career advancement.
Recently Yasin has been “opening the door without expectation” by striking up conversations with interesting strangers he comes across in his daily life. Making a little comment about a book someone’s reading, throwing out a compliment if somebody is sporting a novel or nice piece of attire, commenting on something vaguely noteworthy in the shared environment – there are many easy ways to ‘go first’ and create a human connection out of thin air.
Connecting with new people is massively happiness-inducing and new interactions almost always go better and easier than our rejection-fearing brains suggest they will. The fear that accompanies ‘going first’ always seems so over the top once you open your mouth and speak, and then see how eager the average person is to connect back.
Your human network is so crucial. People are what create your net worth. And people are everywhere, all around you. You are swimming in a sea of humanity, and this ocean of people is a never-ending source of potential opportunity. So go through life with your head held low, trying not to make eye contact and ignoring other people…… at your peril!
Fear of rejection is a big for why people tend to keep themselves to themselves. Often we tell ourselves we would rather be alone, that we are natural introverts. But, at least as often as not, this is a type of rationalization, a denial of our basically highly-social human nature. Don’t let a fear of rejection masquerade as a healthy desire to keep yourself to yourself. Overcome your fears and say “hi” – the potential rewards are endless.
12 Rules For Life – Healthy Striving
One of the most beautiful things about Jordan Peterson is that he tells it like it is and speaks about the harshness of life and the difficulty in managing one’s own behavior, but he does this while being very candid about his own shortcomings and consistent failure to live fully up to his own standards.
Striving towards living in close accordance with your own values is healthy. Especially when you realize that, as an inherently flawed and imperfect human, you can never reach perfection in your thoughts, words, and actions. As humans we are are subject to our flights of emotional fancy – we are animals, beasts…. not gods. Knowing that we are imperfect and susceptible to irrational emotion, it is wise to formulate rational, sensible rules and values for how you want to behave. Codify these rules while you are calm and rational. These rules are guidelines that you can refer back to again and again in order to check as to whether you are living in accordance with your highest values. Your pre-decided rules and values form a code of behavior that you will certainly not always manage to live up to, but having them codified means that you can always strive towards their better implementation, growing better and better every day but, of course, never reaching perfection.
This is healthy striving. Striving + effort – perfectionism = success!
12 Rules For Life Link.
If you’re keen to start reading Peterson’s book, click the link below:
I’d strongly recommend also checking out Maps of Meaning, his most prominent book:
And finally, here is Peterson’s website.