How To Get More Hinge Matches
Note: This is directed toward guys wanting more Hinge matches, but there
Also, this is a hefty post. I want it to be the only thing on Hinge you have to read so it has to be comprehensive. It is certainly a commitment of time and energy, and to get meaningful results it will require your proactivity. If you’re unwilling to make a concerted effort to change your dating life, if you want some silver bullet, this isn’t the post for you.
Remember, you’re already making effort. You’re already swiping, liking, messaging, and calling many, many girls trying to find success. I’m just asking for you to better utilise energy already being expended so you can get more Hinge matches and convert more of those matches into dates.
A Bird’s Eye View Of Online Dating
Before we get into my tips for having Hinge matches coming out your ears, I want to first outline the landscape we are dealing with – awareness is always the first step. So many of you will have heard this statistic already, but for those of you that haven’t:
The top 80% of women only swipe right on the top 20% of men.
So unless you’re in the top 20% of guys, there are no two ways about it, you have your work cut out for you. You have two options on hearing this information:
2) Fully optimise your profile so you get as many Hinge matches as possible. Next optimise your text game so you can convert those matches into dates.
We are going to focus on option 2 here in a 3-part series. Now, we won’t be using any underhanded tactics here: no lying about age, or height, or manipulating photos so we seem more attractive, more muscular, or slimmer than we actually are. Instead, we will be using statistics to show us which types of photos do best and in which order. Post one.
Next, we will discuss the structure required for the perfect Hinge profile question/answers. This section is worth significantly more than the bio sections of Tinder or Bumble, but it still is by far the least important factor in getting Hinge matches.
Imagine you go into a burger place and they have photos of their burgers up on the walls. They look terrible. The buns are green with mould, the burgers look raw, and they are drowning in a loveless sauce affair. Right as you’re about to turn to leave, the owner comes up and says ‘I see you’re interested in our burgers!
Finally, we will discuss text game. This is an absolutely essential aspect of Hinge and it is often overlooked. The game doesn’t stop once you’ve got Hinge matches – that’s only the beginning! Here, text game refers to both messages sent on your chosen dating platform and text messages/Whatsapp messages etc. Post three.
Optimising Your Hinge Profile
Studies have shown that women take about 1/10th of a second to form an impression of someone in a photo. That means if you lose it on the first image, you ain’t getting it back.
Most people wrongfully think attractiveness is all that is looked at in the photo of a potential mate.
In marketing there is something called product market fit. You might have a great product, but if you’re marketing it to the wrong group, your results will be forever lacklustre.
It’s important to know who you appeal most to and then double your efforts with those people. Try and appeal to everyone and you’ll appeal to no one. This is also the case with dating profiles.
You must ensure you are properly signalling that you are someone of value, someone with an interesting life.
Do this and you’ll get more Hinge matches.
Birds of a Feather Flock Together or Opposites Attract?
People think opposites attract, but they really don’t.
Studies have found that people are more likely to be attracted to and pursue romantic relationships with individuals who are more like themselves across a broad range of personal characteristics, including age, religion, political orientation, and certain aspects of intelligence.
I’ve experienced this firsthand. I used to be quite hippyish. I had a nose ring and long hair and wore no shoes and had a guitar surgically attached to me.
During that period I found it incredibly easy to build attraction with hippy girls, or girls who had a thing for hippy musicians. Often I’d ask what them what type of guy they normally dated. They’d show me pictures. It was like taking a tour around a poorly run factory that was producing copies of me with varying degrees of effectiveness. All of them were tall, skinny, curly, dark haired guys who were kind of hippyish and played guitar.
And I noticed it was significantly harder to attract girls for whom I was outside their paradigm, outside their desired trajectory.
Niche Your Way To Hinge Success
Try attracting lactose intolerant vegans to your cheese shop – it’s gonna be pretty hard.
In business, success almost always comes from, at least initially, niching down. Once a business has established itself as highly valuable in its niche, it may start to drum up
Likewise, a girl may have no interest in scientists but find Elon Musk attractive – Amber Heard, for example (according to this article, she is the most beautiful woman on the planet, but I assume the sampling was limited to a small percentage of A-list actresses so there is likely a decent amount of incompleteness here. Nonetheless, a quick Google image search of Amber Heard will likely lead you to a similar conclusion).
Why is this the case? It’s because women don’t just look for likeness, they also look for social status and the accumulation of resources. Men at the top of any pecking order will have both social status and considerable resources.
As attraction is a relative thing – meaning we decide who we are attracted to by comparing and contrasting all potential mates – there are circumstances where a male with consider
As with all assessments, value
To bring this back home, focus on a niche even if you want to attract every type of girl.
What To Highlight On Your Hinge Profile
I think at this point, it’d be helpful to provide some examples so you can get an idea of what I’m talking about.
Women that weight social status, power, and resources, extremely heavily will likely look for things like displays of wealth or prestige when seeking a mate. Some examples include fancy watches, fast cars, expensive homes, beautifully tailored suits, prestigious work, etc.*
*Not all displays of status, power, and resources are made equal. We want subtle, humble displays or we’ll attract the wrong type of woman – more on this later.
Women that weight creativity, freedom, propensity to risk, and sensuality might go for artists and creatives.
If you find a certain type of woman particularly attractive then it is advisable to reverse engineer what type of guy they would go for and go from there.
Once you have established what niche you are going to focus on, you can double down on becoming more characteristic of that niche and start to present that archetype with your profile pictures.
Don’t Pretend To Be Someone You Aren’t
As mentioned before, we aren’t trying to become something we are not here. We are not trying to lie or manipulate.
If you aren’t a hipster at all and you think hipsters are silly then don’t create a profile that portrays you as a hipster. That’s unethical and will bite you in the ass sooner or later. But you certainly can highlight and minimise certain aspects of your personality – we all do this to some degree anyway.
It’s like a CV. You don’t put everything on it. You don’t talk about that time you also got fired for calling someone a bitch, or the time when you lost a big client because you got drunk and started hitting on his wife. And you don’t focus on the administrative aspects of your job – the boring stuff.
Instead, you highlight the aspects of truth that put you in good stead for getting the job. And as long as you’re presenting something that is consistent and reflective of who you actually are, it’s all gravy baby!
How To Show Off Without Looking Like a Dickhead
Here is an example from my own life to help drive home the point. I like the gym. A lot. I go 5/6 times a week. But I’m not a gym junky. I rarely talk about the gym. I don’t get
But if I wanted to date gym bunnies exclusively, it might be a good idea for me to accentuate this aspect of myself.
Meaning pictures of me looking jacked on the beach or playing team sports. Maybe some action shots. Maybe some fun pics of me showing off my strength in a fun way like lifting a car or lifting two of my friends or whatever.
With this example
If there is a picture of you holding up a dog like Simba and you happen to look jacked, great. But a gym mirror selfie is not likely to have the same appeal.
In the same way that a candid shot of
*The douche strategy will still get you Hinge matches. And it is so polarising that the girls that do like you will REALLY like you, but you’ll be less effective in general. And you’ll likely attract the wrong type of girls. Also, do you really want to be a douche? I hope not.
The Photos That Get Hinge Matches, Statistically
I have traversed every corner of the internet looking for data highlighting the increased attractiveness of certain photo types. I have provided heavily distilled findings here so you’re giving yourself the absolute best opportunity to have success online.
A Man’s Best Friend
The below image is taken from Photofeeler, a website where you can stop guessing whether you look attractive in a given photo and just put it to the public to decide. You can also decide what genders and ages are able to vote on your photos.
If you decide to use this site (and you should), I would recommend narrowing who can vote to the sex and the age group you’re interested in. All other votes mean little. Before you get your sausage in a twist, it’s free if you vote on other people’s photos.
This dude preforms significantly better on smarts, trustworthiness, and attractiveness with a dog in his photo. According to the site, these are the traits most heavily weighted in partner selection.
So you shouldn’t just be optimising for attractiveness unless you want to date women that will knife your tyres and tattoo their names on you while you’re sleeping. Likewise, you shouldn’t focus on any one of these traits to the exclusion of the others. You want to be scoring high across the board.
It’s All Context Dependant
Another thing you may have heard is that photos of men looking away from the camera and not smiling were consistently seen as the most attractive. This statistical analysis was done by
I would recommend ignoring all these
That is to say, hypothetically, if beards are generally seen as unattractive but YOU look significantly better with a beard, growing a beard is certainly your best course of action if you want more Hinge matches – and you wouldn’t still be reading if that wasn’t the case!
Don’t look for what does best on average, look for what does best for you. These will often be distinctly different things. What get you Hinge matches might not get me Hinge matches.
You are Most Attractive When…
The only way to see what works for you is to maintain a keen awareness of inputs and outputs.
I’m not an analytical guy by nature. I’m also not organised by nature. But these things are prerequisites to living the best life you can live – this pertains not only to dating.
So experiment with different inputs – beard/no beard, long hair/short hair, muscular/slim, hipster/banker/skater/farmer/hippy/athlete etc. etc. – and take note of the outputs. Are you getting the results you want? No? Then change an input. Don’t change all inputs at once because you will be unable to track which input was the catalyst for change.
Change an input and then see how the world reacts. As you’re walking down the street do you get more or less eye contact? Do your friends give you more compliments or less compliments? Do you get more or less matches?
Once again, you don’t want to look at how absolutely everyone interacts with you. Not everyone’s opinion matters – no point looking at the old investment banker lady when trying to figure out if you’re now more attractive to hipster girls. Likewise, your mother’s opinion of your new haircut or outfit means absolutely nothing.
Don’t get confused by the noise.
Quick Wins For Every Guy on Hinge
What will optimise your attractiveness will be different from what will optimise other gentlemen’s attractiveness. Nonetheless, there are some universal truths that every guy can work with to appear more attractive in photos. I cover these quick wins below.
To begin with, let’s look at photo attractiveness by camera class.
You can see there is a significant difference between interchangeable lens DSLRs and camera phones. If you change nothing but the camera you use to take photos of yourself, you’ll see an increase in Hinge matches.
Some of the increased attractiveness from DSLRs is likely because most folk wouldn’t take a selfie, or a photo in a poorly lit venue, or late at night when they’re pissed and drooling with a DSLR.
Folk that use DSLRs are likely to have a better understanding of things like light, depth, and composition. So if you can’t get your hands on a good DSLR, get someone who knows how to use a camera to head out with you for a day and take photos of you in different locations on your smartphone.
Or don’t. I never said getting Hinge matches was a walk in the park. But, like investing in the stock market, the effort is only hefty to begin with, once you’ve done the initial groundwork, you can stop working and let your profile do the work for you.
Does Flashing Get The Girl?
Ok, next up is flash vrs no flash.
Don’t use flash is the obvious takeaway here.
The Golden Hour
The Golden Hour is the period shortly after sunrise or before sunset, where daylight is redder and softer than when the Sun is high in the sky. This softer light makes everything look better – not just people. So when heading out to take some decent photos of yourself, try to be cognizant of when the sun is setting (I assume most of you won’t be out at 5AM working on your Hinge profile) and take the majority of your photos around then.
Individual Photos VRS Group Photos
Should your first picture be a picture of just you, or you and your posse?
To answer this, I’m going to flip the script. When a girl has a picture of her and about 6 of her friends as her profile picture, is that helpful? At the very least, it makes you have to do more investigative work to figure out who owns the profile. In user experience design, you’re taught that the more intuitive and easy something is to do, the more likely people are to do it. UX designers are tasked with reducing ‘friction’ to the sale/use of a product.
This holds true in dating too.
From making it easy to see you’re attractive right from your first photo to choosing a venue that’s easy for her to get to, the less investment she has to make, the more likely she is to continue to invest.
Secondly, when you see that profile pic with 6 girls in it, you’ll likely pick out the one you’re most attracted to and hope that’s who owns the profile. If you flick through the other pictures and find that’s not who owns the profile, you’ll be disappointed. That’s the last things we want a girl to feel when she looks at our profile:
‘Oh, it’s that guy…’
What’s The Solution Then?
So take away that option. Use perspective to your advantage. Don’t stand next to the 7 foot guy – even if you’re 6 foot 3. Don’t stand next to the male model, even if you’re pretty good looking. You want to be the most attractive guy in the photo. This is positive relativity: the comparison makes you even more attractive.
Nonetheless, a group photo should never be your first photo, it makes things harder than they have to be.
Below is a screenshot from a Badoo study showing which photos women are most and least likely to swipe right for.
You can see group photos are not likely to do well for you – especially if there are attractive women in the photo. The study doesn’t mention the effect of taking photos with unattractive women, but I could see this being even less effective.
So, don’t have a group profile picture if you want Hinge matches. You can have one as your third/forth picture, but make sure it’s clear who you are in the picture and be the most attractive.
There is other information you can gleen from this screenshot, but also lots to be taken with a pinch of salt. 22% of women will swipe left on a man with a beard but that says nothing about the women you want to swipe right. And it doesn’t reveal what makes YOU look most attractive.
Right, that’s it for part one. At this point, you should have a solid understanding of how to optimise your profile so you are getting the most Hinge matches you possibly can. If you take what you’ve learned here and apply it, you will reap the rewards for year to come. Leave your comments and questions below and I’ll jump in and give my 2 cents.
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