Russell Brand – the Misconception of Attraction
Russell Brand originally became famous as a television presenter and comedian. He still does stand-up but has replaced TV presenting with podcast-hosting. His excellent podcast tackles big philosophical, spiritual and political issues. A master seducer, his techniques fly in the face of the pickup community, yet their efficacy cannot be denied. He is the embodiment of the misconception of attraction.
Brand has moved from discussing light, fluffy topics on TV to tackling heavy, deep topics on his podcast. However, he has maintained his ability to flirt masterfully. Brand displays a flamboyant charisma that reduces women (and very often men) to giggling blushing schoolgirls.
Russell Brand is masterfully eloquent, engaging and warm. And most of all he is honest. He has the confidence to say what is on his mind and be real.
Here is how Russell Brand reveals the misconception of attraction.
Russell Brand is a Master Flirter
A potent combination of charisma, warmth, eloquence, and honesty makes Russell Brand a master flirter. Watching him in action provides a masterclass in flirting skills. Noticing his flirting techniques and the responses they elicit is an invaluable learning experience for any man.
Russell Brand is a ‘Natural’
A ‘natural’ is a man who can flirt effortlessly and naturally with women. Flirting is easy for a ‘natural’, it’s second nature.
Russell Brand certainly has the hallmarks of a ‘natural’. But he may not be…
Many men who appear to be naturals are actually demonstrating behaviours they have learned so thoroughly that they have become a part of who they are. These men have reached ‘natural’ status by learning, incorporating and mastering skills over a long period of time.
Whether or not Russell Brand is a ‘natural’, or a man who learned skills so thoroughly that he seems like a ‘natural’ is interesting but ultimately moot. We can learn from Russell Brand either way.
It is important to realise that if you are not a ‘natural’, as most men are not, flirting skills can be learned and incorporated to such an extent that you, for all intents and purposes, actually become a natural.
The Game Community Teaches How To Pickup Women
Many men look to the internet to learn how to attract women. The Game community (named after Neil Strauss book ‘The Game’) exists to teach men how to be better with women.
The Game community has many gurus. And many of them teach excellently.
The Game community helps millions of men to improve their lives. But few men in the community have the natural charisma of Russell Brand. The Game community, by its very nature, attracts people who do not find flirting with women easy or natural.
Many Game rules are helpful, but only under certain circumstances. Rules are good as training wheels to get a man moving in the right direction. But these rules can become obsolete. And they then need to be outgrown.
Russell Brand Reveals the Truth About Flirting
Russell Brand’s style of flirting is very different from the style many Game gurus espouse. In his flirting, Brand breaks many Game community rules.
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Truths That are Overlooked by the Game Community
The Game community comes from the basic premise that hot girls are higher value than men. Much of what is taught in the Game community is designed to bring women down to a man’s level.
The Game Community Says… Don’t Compliment Women
The Game community teaches that complimenting a woman is weak and will put her off. They teach that complimenting ads to the notion that she is of higher value than him.
Instead, the Game community teaches men to be challenging toward women. It teaches techniques such as negging, push/pull, and giving backhanded compliments. All these techniques are designed to bring a woman down and make her feel less valuable.
You Don’t Need to Bring Her Value Down
However, that only needs to happen if you believe you are of lower value than her. If you both believe you are lower value then you need to bring her down. But if you both believe that you are of equal value (or greater) then you only need to be yourself. You do not need to bring yourself up, or to take her down.
These attempts to bring a girl down are a major misconception of attraction.
Instead of bringing a girl’s value down, a man needs to become high value himself by improving in the necessary ways. And crucially he has to correct his thinking and to stop seeing himself as lower value.
And it is THIS misconception of attraction that Russell Brand highlights best.
You and She are Equals!
When a man feels that he is equal in value to a girl he will be confident. This confidence will allow him to be his best self. This confidence will allow him to take off the training wheels of flirting rules and instead be himself.
A confident man who clearly believes in his own value can flirt in whatever way he wants. His fundamental attractiveness and high-value vibe mean that he can compliment passionately and, like Russell Brand, get away with it!
What You Feel, She Feels
If a man truly feels less than a girl she will detect this even while he negs and gives her backhanded compliments.
If a man feels he is of high value and thoroughly deserves to be flirting with a woman, she will detect his confidence even while he compliments the hell out of her!
She feels what you feel.
Being ‘Yourself’ is the Holy Grail
Russell Brand is himself. He believes in himself and so he can 100% own his words, his compliments, and his lust.
Believing that you need to bring a girl down a peg or two in order for her to find you attractive is a misconception of attraction.
By all means, use training wheels at the beginning of your learning journey. But at the same time, make sure to grow into the man you want to be.
Once you are the man you want to be you can get rid of the training wheels and enjoy the art of flirting. And, like Russell Brand, flirt with wild abandon, imagination, and love!