#163 People Are Not Their Thoughts Pt2
People Are Not Their Thoughts Pt2
Understanding that your thoughts are not you allows you to be less harsh on yourself for thinking what you think. Your thoughts arrive unbidden, you can’t help what your brain farts out – so all you can do is deal with what comes up in the best way possible.
And the ramifications of understanding this truth go far beyond improving your ability to manage your own experience of life and behaviour. An important point to remember is, if your thoughts are not you, then other people’s thoughts are not them. Everyone else is just as at the mercy of whatever nonsensical, distorted, painful, crazy-talk their brain vomits out as you are!
This realisation is important. It means that if somebody is mean, harsh, judgemental or rude to you…… it is irrational to feel any anger towards them! They did not choose to feel dislike, irritation, anger, resentment, hatred towards you – those thoughts about you just arrived in their head, unbidden, and there is nothing the person can do about it. This eliminates the cause of a lot of fruitless anger!
It is certainly OK to defend yourself against the potentially harmful actions and behaviours of another person who is treating you badly, but it is pointless to feel any real anger towards that person, because that person is not their thoughts. They are not their thoughts of dislike towards you. They are simply a fellow human being, just like yourself, with a head full of often negative, pain-inducing, bias nonsense that they are trying their best to contend with.
So, in summary, in is unreasonable and irrational to dislike a person because they dislike you. The fact is, they only dislike you due to thoughts that have arrived in their mind unbidden and that they have no control over. A person is not his or her like or dislike of you!